New step study groups!

It’s not too late to join one of our new step study groups on Sunday mornings! Men’s and Women’s groups are open for new participants. See any of our leaders to join in on these amazing opportunities.

 

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This Friday night… Confess

This is often one of the hardest parts of recovery.  You have drudged up the past and are working on the healing, but why should we confess our sins to someone else if we have already confessed it to God?  Well, it’s because that is what God has called us to do.

“Some people say you just confess it to a Priest, and some people say you just confess it to a psychologist, and some people say you just confess it to God. But, God says you confess it to each other. Now, if you want to be forgiven, all you need to do is confess it to God. If you want to be healed you have got to confess it to somebody else. You can be forgiven the moment you confess your habit, hurt, or hang-up to God, you are forgiven instantly.  You are not healed until you confess it to somebody else.”   – Rick Warren, Pastor of Saddleback Church and co-creator of Celebrate Recovery.

What is a Co-Dependent?

Do you assume responsibility for other’s feelings and behaviors or feel guilty about other’s feelings and behaviors?

Do you worry about how others may respond to your feelings, opinions, and behavior?

Do you value others opinions and feelings more than your own?

Do you feel embarrassed when receiving recognition, praise, or gifts?

Do you have a fear of being hurt and/or rejected by others?

Have you ever compromised your own beliefs, values, and integrity to avoid other’s rejection or anger?

Have you ever gone above and beyond to be needed, valued, or loved?

Have you ever tolerated mistreatment or abuse from others while justifying their behavior and trying to defend them?

Are you overly caring for others at the expense of one’s own self needs; feeling victimized and “used” as a result.  Do you experience anxiety in saying “no” to someone, even when saying “yes” would be at great inconvenience?

Do you directly or indirectly attempt to fix, manage, or control another person’s problems to help them avoid feeling bad or experiencing the consequences of their choices?

Do you judge everything you think, say, or do harshly, as never being “good enough?”

Do you feel conflicted by a desire to be needed and resentment for feeling obligated in serving others.

Are you extremely loyal, to the point of remaining in harmful situations too long?

Do you Feel bound in relationships by performance (what I do) rather than core value and worth (who I am)?

Do you avoids conflict with other people to the point of being unable to speak true feelings or asking for valid needs to be met, oftentimes countered by fits of anger or rage.

Freedom from co-dependency begins when we surrender the illusion that our identity and value are established through the lenses of other people. Our identity is in how God views us and who He created us to be. As a result, we no longer need to see ourselves as a function of what we do, but who we already are. Sobriety for the co-dependent is different. It is not characterized by abstaining from a substance. It is more relational in nature.